Clients often come to see me at my Los Angeles psychotherapy office because they suffer from procrastination and low self-esteem. They frequently resort to elaborate schemes in an attempt to increase their self-esteem and accomplish more in their lives.
This brief article is about short cuts. If you want to increase your self-esteem, think for a moment about a few of the things you KNOW you should be doing in your life but for whatever reasons have been putting off. Maybe you have wanted to start exercising or have felt like writing a friend you haven't spoken to for awhile. Perhaps you've thought about cleaning your home but other "priorities" have gotten in the way. A quick way to get things done and simultaneously raise your self-esteem is to make a list of things you have been putting off. Now, do ONE of them. That's right, just do ONE of them. Write that friend, clean a section of your room, walk around the block (notice I said walk around the "block" and not "run five miles"). The point that I'm making here is that if you do ANYTHING, take ANY ACTION in the direction of doing something you know you should do, your feelings about yourself will automatically increase.
There is one thing I notice among clients seeking help with self-esteem and procrastination or even marriage counseling at my Santa Monica or Beverly Hills therapy office. Quite simply, when wanting to accomplish their therapy goals they thing "too big". They want their relationship problems solved overnight, their home needs to be immaculate, and they want to be in top shape and lose ALL the excess weight without having to put the time in to accomplish their goals. You've got to learn to "think small" (at least at first). Baby steps are the key. Once you start taking small steps in the right direction, you will be surprised to find that not only will you accomplish more than you ever imagined, but that your feelings about yourself will dramatically increase with very little effort.
The next step is for you to make a habit of doing more small things on a regular basis. Then, once the habit has been developed it will become automatic for you to get more done and feel better about yourself in the process.